Years ago I heard Deepak Chopra talk, and the one thing I remember from that talk because it struck me as a very relevant truth was that “You create habits through action. You do not create habits through thought”.
In other words, it doesn’t matter how much you think about your problem, or how much you plan what you are going to eat and plan what you are going to do for exercise, if there aren’t any actions taking place, you are not creating new synapses.
Habits, or repetitive actions, create synapses which form neural pathways in the brain allowing you to more easily do things the more you do them.
For instance, when you learn a classical piano piece and you practice and practice the same section again and again, you are forming synapses, little electrical impulse connections from your brain to your nerve pathways. The more you use these synapses, the more solid they become, and the faster they transmit information. When you stop using them, they slowly fade away, dissolving. That’s how your brain is wired.
This is why I believe you can’t think your way out of addictive behavior. You have to “do” your way out of it. Only your actions, repetitive positive decisions, can form right habits, can re-form your habits, can shift you in to a healthy way of life.